We have a severe problem in this country we fix things with band-aids. We take care of symptoms only, very rarely do we deal with the core cause. Hell, we won’t even acknowledge the core problem. In the great struggle not to offend anyone we place off limits any discussion about the true cause.
ANALOGY: If you are cut on the arm and bleeding on the road, and I come along, I will put a bandage on it. If it bleeds through I may put another bandage over it, or put on a tourniquet. Now that tourniquet may stop the bleeding but does not fix the problem. Somewhere underneath a vessel bleeds. Now we could just let it go, because it looks like everything is good, the bleeding has stopped, we win! Eventually, the arm will die if action is not taken on the core cause. More work, a deeper look, must be taken to save the arm. In the end some things may have to be sacrificed to save the arm.
RELEVANCE: Just because one symptom is under control, does not mean the core cause will not manifest itself again to destroy what we thought we saved.
Right now, as a nation, we are bearing witness to one of the most horrific events we can conjure in our minds, the slaughter of helpless, innocent children. I have seen more dead kids then I have ever wanted to, I have watched more heart broken parents run into ERs then I have ever wanted to, and I have held lifeless hands of little children then anyone should. I have seen kids that are the victim of violence and neglect. I’ve seen first hand children suffering. With all that said, I know there is a underlying problem, not just and simple symptom to put a band-aid on.
I grew up with violent cartoons, playing guns, questionable video games, horror movies, and the list of dangerous exposer goes on. How am I not jacked up? I own a Glock 23 and S&W M&P 15 Sport 5.56. I was in the Army, I have scary military training. Are you scared of me shooting up a school? Why not? Or why? What makes me different? I had a strong core family.
DISCLAIMER: I AM IN NO WAY STATING IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO GROW UP WELL ADJUSTED IN A LESS THAN DESIRABLE FAMILY GROUPING. SOME GOOD PEOPLE WILL RISE FROM BAD SETTINGS, AND MONSTERS WILL COME FROM GOOD SETTINGS. THE IDEA IS WHAT GIVES CHILDREN THE BEST CHANCE.
I did not grow up in a traditional family. I was raised by my grandparents and aunt. What they provided was a parenting team all on the same page. A stable safe place to grow up. I was told no more than yes. I was give unshakable moral values, that were explained and promoted everyday under the same roof. I always had one parent available to me 24/7. I was raised by my family not someone else. Teachers were at school to teach academics, laws were to maintain order, neither were to give me a moral compass. I was taught absolute right and wrong. I was taught about good and evil. I was taught cartoons, movies, and games where just that not reality and not an example of how to live my life.
I was not shuttled back and forth between two or more homes. I did not have to be raised under two sets of rules. I was never used a pawn between two battling parents. I did not spend 6-8 hours a day in dare care. I was not patronized, or told I would always win. I was not taught that life was relevant and my needs out weigh the needs of others. I was not taught to hate or knowingly do bad.
There is a destructive breakdown of the family unit today. I am not preaching “traditional” family. I’m talking a core unit that raises children together, a parenting team. Straight couples, gay couples, grandparents, aunts, uncles, the possibilities are numerous just create a team focused on raising healthy well adjusted kids. Having money is not key to raising kids. Having things will not make your children successful in life. I stood in line for free cheese and butter. My first brand name clothing item was a pair of Levis in JR high. I grew up with very few material things. Only love and time accomplish the goal of raising well adjusted kids. We are so selfish as a society today, that we make choices for our benefit not even factoring the effects on our kids. We are losing the desire to sacrifice everything for our kids, because it will make things hard on us. We want our unfulfilled needs and desires met. Challenges with video games, social media, guns, insert anything, will always be there. All of this can be overcome, if we build strong core family units.
The world is a bad place period. Monsters do exists and the Boogie Man is out there. Guess what it’s our fault. We have created it. I see fellow humans that we have cast off every day at work, and its sad. We have lost the value of life. The one thing that once made this country great, made us second to none was an overwhelming compassion for others, and a deep conviction to value all life. Today everything is relative there is no more common moral standard. Your individual situation is your reality. That reality has you justifying all you actions. That justification sets your morals. Those morals are your truth. How cant there be more than one truth when it comes to morals? I learned a few things from algebra. One thing was how to solve problems. We start with an equal sign in the middle. Now we must add, subtract, divide, and multiply both sides to make them equal, to get to a real answer. Both sides must give to the other, stop using band-aids.
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